The restraining order is in effect until it is dismissed by the court, regardless of what the petitioner tells you. If the petitioner desires to have the restraining order dismissed, the petitioner must appear in the Clerk's office and complete certain paperwork. Even after the paperwork is completed, the order remains in full force and effect until it is dismissed by the court.
The court may set the case for a hearing before deciding whether to dismiss the order. You should never discuss with the petitioner your desire to have the restraining order modified or dismissed because doing so could result in a violation of the order or additional criminal charges.
You are not allowed to have any contact with the petitioner, other than through your attorney under certain circumstances, for any purpose unless provided for in the order itself. If a modification of the order is appropriate, you can file a motion to modify the order.